My mom and I have a promise. She wants me to make sure that she's DNR if she ever gets sick, no heroic measures, no nursing home, and I got scared when she said that and made her promise me the same thing back, if I ever get sick. I can't imagine that ever happening to my mom, one of the walls in my universe, and I can't but feel for anyone it happens to, and admire their strength in dealing with it. Add my hugs to everyone else's.